tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post6946928422690942399..comments2023-12-30T00:30:21.906-08:00Comments on The Hippie Housewife: "What Not to Say: Tools for Talking with Young Children" Book Review & GiveawayHippie Housewifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14718357472343295031noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-73379104482392121062012-07-26T17:26:35.767-07:002012-07-26T17:26:35.767-07:00Congratulations to the giveaway winner, Momma in P...Congratulations to the giveaway winner, Momma in Progress!Hippie Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718357472343295031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-27246038029552878002012-07-26T17:26:16.199-07:002012-07-26T17:26:16.199-07:00Congratulations, Momma in Progress; you are the wi...Congratulations, Momma in Progress; you are the winner of the book giveaway! I will contact you by email shortly.Hippie Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718357472343295031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-65687713778442047502012-07-20T14:46:06.275-07:002012-07-20T14:46:06.275-07:00Trying really hard to stop saying "good boy&q...Trying really hard to stop saying "good boy". Really hard. xxSuyainoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-30231626702743020552012-07-18T06:46:57.917-07:002012-07-18T06:46:57.917-07:00Coming from a teaching background I am very consci...Coming from a teaching background I am very conscious of what I say... At least I think I am. I do disagree with the blanket dismissal of some phrases (I like the phrase "good job") but I agree with the dismissal of others (I won't say things to try to make a child stop crying - just hugs and kisses and calm words until they are ready). <br /><br />I would love a copy so I could see what the author thinks. I welcome the chance to identify other phrases that I might need to stop using.Casshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11178358479091135513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-35575814906055598032012-07-18T04:34:31.816-07:002012-07-18T04:34:31.816-07:00I'm trying to stop sighing. I tend to over-voc...I'm trying to stop sighing. I tend to over-vocalize my emotions, I suppose thinking that I can get them to understand that I'm frustrated or even angry. I have recently found that I can just say how I'm feeling without blaming them and that's way better for all of us.Mary Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049538097908559670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-61848390746556062552012-07-17T09:06:21.202-07:002012-07-17T09:06:21.202-07:00Yay!Yay!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-90338583797071091022012-07-17T08:31:15.871-07:002012-07-17T08:31:15.871-07:00Self-care for sure!Self-care for sure!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-87429616213525085592012-07-17T08:31:00.534-07:002012-07-17T08:31:00.534-07:00Respond is the perfect word. Remember that you hav...Respond is the perfect word. Remember that you have to stay recharged and refreshed to be able to respond instead of reacting--that is all of our default settings. You would love my book!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-85522299733887162582012-07-17T08:29:08.121-07:002012-07-17T08:29:08.121-07:00Perfect example! Definitely set limits before you ...Perfect example! Definitely set limits before you are at yours! Then remmebr that sometimes they just have to dump out a big mess of feelings. This is totally normal and actually desired--it helps their systems to regulate!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-80416957793188468002012-07-17T08:27:50.576-07:002012-07-17T08:27:50.576-07:00I struggle here too. I get very impatient when we ...I struggle here too. I get very impatient when we are "running behind" even though I KNOW I'm the grown up--the only perons capable of time management whatsoever. If I start earlier, things always go smoother.Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-31385656300551202252012-07-17T08:26:45.396-07:002012-07-17T08:26:45.396-07:00So helpful to remember that their little brains ar...So helpful to remember that their little brains are pushing them: "explore! create! explore! create!" Try to get things they shouldn't have out of reach and then they can do both of these without a problem.Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-47727708166069514192012-07-17T08:25:27.348-07:002012-07-17T08:25:27.348-07:00I have heard this from other parents who have pets...I have heard this from other parents who have pets! So true!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-61376198796409100292012-07-17T08:24:58.076-07:002012-07-17T08:24:58.076-07:00Yes, great--clear directives are so helpful. Also ...Yes, great--clear directives are so helpful. Also just narrating what you see with a warm and loving tone.Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-31200008727925310012012-07-17T08:24:06.051-07:002012-07-17T08:24:06.051-07:00Yay! That one is in the book. You can narrate inst...Yay! That one is in the book. You can narrate instead and also set a limit for your own comfort but be sure to say it's for your comfort, not because of lack of skill on their part: "I want you to climb down from there because I am feeling to nervous about the height. We'll find a lower spot for you to practive that."Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-92112966517437773542012-07-17T08:22:35.489-07:002012-07-17T08:22:35.489-07:00My son says this too. And "Are you kidding me...My son says this too. And "Are you kidding me?" Let's keep at it. Change is incremental!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-8971664255570904872012-07-17T08:21:49.193-07:002012-07-17T08:21:49.193-07:00Me too!Me too!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-9774733698179110682012-07-17T08:21:35.894-07:002012-07-17T08:21:35.894-07:00They will show you where you need to grow!They will show you where you need to grow!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-43528222832903525442012-07-17T08:21:17.128-07:002012-07-17T08:21:17.128-07:00YES! Modeling is paramount. they are always watchi...YES! Modeling is paramount. they are always watching you for tips about tone, respect, anger management...all of it!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-29474659045519629392012-07-17T08:20:23.789-07:002012-07-17T08:20:23.789-07:00The questionsing tona and the "okay?" ar...The questionsing tona and the "okay?" are the hardest for me to avoid. I think it is deeply ingrained in woman to be less assertive and directive. I am still working on this myself.Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-45476050478104200202012-07-17T08:19:18.826-07:002012-07-17T08:19:18.826-07:00Nice work!Nice work!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-60610838911075955292012-07-17T08:19:06.908-07:002012-07-17T08:19:06.908-07:00Yes, there is always a way to frame it as a yes. J...Yes, there is always a way to frame it as a yes. Just this AM I told my son, "Yes, we can get a munchkin at Dunkin Donuts, but on another day."Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-55585003498378195322012-07-17T08:18:12.549-07:002012-07-17T08:18:12.549-07:00Carrie Contey, PhD has an awesome solution for whe...Carrie Contey, PhD has an awesome solution for when you're losing it--just be silly about losing it, or at the very least off to the side so your emotional dummp lands somewhere other than on them: "Ahh...I'm losing it! I don't know what to do!" while waving your arms around in distress.Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-82040732954779899822012-07-17T08:16:36.970-07:002012-07-17T08:16:36.970-07:00Yes, that's a good one. Validate and listen! T...Yes, that's a good one. Validate and listen! They will decide if they are fine or not.Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-20609644381973472412012-07-17T08:15:45.325-07:002012-07-17T08:15:45.325-07:00Try being silly, start singing about what you are ...Try being silly, start singing about what you are doing and how you wish you had twelve arms so you could do everything at once but wait then you would be an octopus and not a monny oh dear!Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-52127536588657476062012-07-17T08:14:22.191-07:002012-07-17T08:14:22.191-07:00I also comment, "Hey, look at that!" wit...I also comment, "Hey, look at that!" with a sense of wonder.Sarah MacLaughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09739308128902024525noreply@blogger.com