tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post5135419298636142140..comments2023-12-30T00:30:21.906-08:00Comments on The Hippie Housewife: Attachment Parenting Series: Bedding close to babyHippie Housewifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14718357472343295031noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-83397634657648531232011-06-16T22:18:32.924-07:002011-06-16T22:18:32.924-07:00Ashley, I can so relate. It wasn't until half...Ashley, I can so relate. It wasn't until halfway through my pregnancy with my first that I started shifting from "kids just need more tough love!" to a more natural, instinctive, and gentle parenting approach. I'm so glad your little guy is healthy now and that you found your way to attachment parenthood!Hippie Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718357472343295031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-79123490845597238282011-06-16T20:53:11.415-07:002011-06-16T20:53:11.415-07:00I'm new to your blog & LOVE it! I'm la...I'm new to your blog & LOVE it! I'm late to the game on this, but....<br /><br />I never knew I was an attachment parent until I got pregnant and my inner-hippie was born. My pre-hippie self was known to say: no child ever died from crying to sleep; and no babies in MY bed!; and other nonsense. <br /><br />Once my son was born, he had some health issues (he's all fixed & crazy healthy now), and we were so darn glad to have him home that the only place we could imagine him being was right there next to us. We were scared because he was so tiny that he ended up in a bassinet next to me, but once he was big & strong enough to nurse side-lying, he was in bed all the time! I needed to sleep, he needed to eat, it worked so well. <br /><br />Now he spends most nights in his crib. He's an active sleeper & was keeping everyone up. He still ends up in bed next to me, though, when I don't feel like being up for the day at 5:30! I know I can get at least another hour out of him if he's dozing on the breast =) Plus, it's good snuggle time & good for both of us. <br /><br />I'm SO glad I educated myself with the biology & mechanics of successful breastfeeding, and I never had any expectation of "sleeping thru the night." I had to consciously decide that a long breastfeeding relationship was more important than a few hours of sleep. <br /><br />I get a lot of strange looks from my family & friends for having done things so differently, but I know I've done right by my son & my family.Ashleyhttp://shrinkytink.typepad.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-59509147415528916512011-03-08T07:12:42.253-08:002011-03-08T07:12:42.253-08:00I love co-sleeping. Most nights my girls start in ...I love co-sleeping. Most nights my girls start in their own room and usually Rylee comes to my bed halfway through the night. Sometimes we all still sleep in my bed though. It really just depends on what is going on. Sometimes, Emma (8) still just wants to sleep with me because she wants to be close to me. We plan to continue co-sleeping with any future kids we might have. I'm really happy that Josh is an advocate for co-sleeping too :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-56117651784273750652011-03-07T22:36:53.544-08:002011-03-07T22:36:53.544-08:00Young Mom, I loved your post about recognizing you...Young Mom, I loved your post about recognizing your own need for sleep. Such an important point. The phrase "sleep anorexic" made me giggle, but how true! We can't do it all at the expense of our need for sleep.<br /><br />This Is Us, excellent point on the portability of bed-sharing!<br /><br />Karyn, we didn't own a crib for our second child either. It would be a bit more of a juggling act to have a family bed in the kids' room, since you couldn't have the two of them in the same bed alone...hmm, interesting. Maybe a co-sleeper for the baby next to the double bed in Raiden's room? I'm personally still dreaming of a king size family bed for our crew, preferably on the floor, but it's a no go with my husband so far. ;)<br /><br />Staci, I hope you meant that it looks like you were doing something <i>right</i> after all! It's wonderful that you had your children in your room even before you consciously chose attachment parenting.Hippie Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14718357472343295031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-24587058320066441742011-03-07T11:26:51.717-08:002011-03-07T11:26:51.717-08:00Thank you so much for this. I came a bit late to t...Thank you so much for this. I came a bit late to the AP party, or so I thought. Our babies ended up in our bed pretty much every night. We had a crib in our room (only about a foot from the bed) and they stayed in our room until at least age 2 (26 mo, 36 mo, & 4 years.) Looks like maybe I was doing something wrong after all.Stacihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15737928323694787579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-57407116793265997782011-03-07T11:20:09.799-08:002011-03-07T11:20:09.799-08:00Our co-sleeping was accidental as well. Due to the...Our co-sleeping was accidental as well. Due to the c-section I was barely able to get up and down out of a chair, let alone out of <i>bed</i> to get a baby out of a crib! We started out the first several days sleeping in the recliner, with him in my arms in the boppy so he couldn't fall, nursing. He would wake up, I'd switch him to the other breast, and we would both fall back asleep. Once I was feeling better, I still didn't feel <i>great</i> and getting in and out of bed was still an issue, so he came to bed with me. I'd never meant for it to happen that way, but it did, and it stuck, and I'm glad for it. <br /><br />Our current arrangement is that if he wakes in the night and yells for me, I move to his room, where he has a double bed, and sleep with him the rest of the night; Daddy is a light sleeper, so this works best for us for <i>him</i> to be able to sleep. <br /><br />In discussing trying for #2 and finding out that the adjustable-rail style crib we had for Raiden has now been totally recalled, I've been asking if we even <i>need</i> to buy a crib for #2, or just figure out how to fit myself, Raiden and a baby in his double bed safely. (So far, we're undecided. Maybe you should write something on a family-bed, too ;).)Karynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13481484074210475160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-35498899619987847342011-03-07T10:14:32.704-08:002011-03-07T10:14:32.704-08:00This was such a great entry! I bookmarked the slee...This was such a great entry! I bookmarked the sleep safety list so thank you for that! <br /><br />I've always planned on having my babies in the bed, because we were in my parents bed. I always thought it was normal! <br /><br />My husband was concerned more about not realizing our baby was between us so we are going to use a co-sleeper until our little girl is bigger than she is just going to sleep in the bed rather than having her own space attached to the bed. <br /><br />I just can't imagine my baby sleeping in another room without me. It gives me anxiety just thinking about it!Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13169767757479816137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-57121637408092396732011-03-07T07:49:32.404-08:002011-03-07T07:49:32.404-08:00Until I had my baby I had never heard of, nor cons...Until I had my baby I had never heard of, nor considered co-sleeping. When he outgrew his sidecar bassinet, I started becoming very anxious about putting him in the crib in another room. After reading many articles (like yours) I became aware of bedsharing as an option. Thanks for putting this out there! My son in now 10 months old and still breastfeeds throughout the night. I am away from him all day at work and don't know what I would do without our time, so close together, at night.Denahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16234703527174441582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5051258436941012775.post-40538914712962965732011-03-07T05:34:45.781-08:002011-03-07T05:34:45.781-08:00Hey! I've been loving your series. I grew up i...Hey! I've been loving your series. I grew up in CIO family and I just couldn't stomache it. My first baby I went the route you did, and she was a great sleeper, only waking up a few times a night, so it worked fine. My second baby changed everything though, so even though I swore no baby would ever sleep in my bed, that was where she ended up. And to my suprise, I ended up loving it! My third slept peacefully in our bed until she started needing her space at about a year old when we put her into a crib in our room. And I'm looking forward to a new little friend in our bed this spring. I linked something wrote about sleep, not really about co-sleeping, but it's related.<br />It's strange how many of the commentors on my post jumped at the chance to reccomend sleep schedules and CIO. : )Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13674332089949439989noreply@blogger.com