My in-laws were just here for a 10-day visit. I love my in-laws, they are truly amazing people and I am blessed to have them in my life. They're very supportive, even if they don't necessarily see why we do certain things the way they do (as evidenced by the first question MIL asked me upon arriving - "So, is he sleeping in his own bed yet?" She seemed to understand what I meant when I phrased my response, "No, he sleeps with us."). We had a great visit and I was sorry to see it end so quickly.
After they left, my husband told me MIL had noted our boy's obvious like for all things cars. After he agreed with her, MIL asked delicately if we, er, "encouraged" him in that direction.
Heck no!
My boy just likes cars.
We haven't tried to push our son into playing with "boy things" anymore than we would push our girls into playing with "girl things". He has stuffed animals. He has dolls. He has cars and trucks. He has blocks. He has a whole pile of "toys that aren't really toys" (his favourites are a spare toothbrush and a cheap flashlight).
But he prefers his cars and trucks over everything else.
And *believe me*, I tried to get him attached to a stuffed animal, thinking it might help him sleep better if he had something besides me to snuggle with. No go, only Mom will do. He has no interest in dolls, day or night. None of this nurturing care towards dollies that my friends with similar aged children talk about. Forget the doll, he wants his cars.
They join us outside, on walks, at church, even in the shower. His favourite pajamas are covered in racecars. (This morning he sat on the bed pointing to each racecar in turn, while I mumbled a sleepy "mm-hmm...mm-hmm...yes, there's another car...mm-hmm...") His favourite t-shirts are his construction vehicles ones. He shows his toy cars off to the other condo residents in the elevators and hallways. They're the first thing he heads for in the church nursery when we go down for coffee hour.
He points them out when we're outside (buses are still his favourite, and oddly he seems to have a particular thing for red cars). His favourite books are filled with cars, trucks, buses and construction vehicles. His first almost-word was dump truck ("duh-truh!"), but sadly he won't say it anymore (much like "uh-oh"). Heck, he even points them out in catalogues! I was looking through the Wish Book last week and he had to point at every truck he saw. When I pointed out the more traditionally "girly" toys, he gave me a look of near disdain and flipped back to a picture of a toy truck.
So, to those who like to think that boys only like cars because we make them like cars...tell that to my son. He just likes cars. And we had nothing to do with it.
My boy likes cars too. So does my girl. Cars are fascinating! My boy even sleeps with his cars...maybe that is a solution for you for the lovey issue.
ReplyDeletehaha that's cute! Landon likes cars too,so does my niece,Tabitha. I'm glad the visit with your in-laws went well.
ReplyDeleteneat pic - my son used to sleep with them lined up around him in a semi circle type shape. though i like more "real life" pics, richard scary, i think, had a big book something like...things that go/move....whatever, that mike also liked (books were another of his favorite things)
ReplyDeleteMy son has that Richard Scary book and *loves* it. My husband bought it for him for his birthday, because it was his favourite book when he was a child too. :)
ReplyDeleteThat's so cute. :) Hannah is the same way with her dolls. We didn't try to force them on her, she just became super attached at first glance and hasn't gone back!
ReplyDeleteI was going to make the same comment my mother did about my brother sleeping with the cars lined up around him. There's a funny picture somewhere.
ReplyDeletehere's a pic of my son, michael, that i mentioned in my last comment, with his cars.
ReplyDeleteI love that you don't gender guide your child's play. I also was thinking, what if you got him a "stuffed" car. Then it would be more comfortable for you and your husband when he brings his cars to bed! :)
ReplyDelete*Oh and all my brothers pretty much love cars...and I know my little boys will...my husband still has the small child fascination!*